What the book does:
The Good Karma Divorce offers techniques to maintain energy, to manage fears and emotions, and to learn that anyone can develop the wisdom and ability to handle this terrifying process. These techniques, honed in the laboratory of Judge Lowrance’s courtroom, are proven. Since her implementation of Good Karma Divorce principles in her court three years ago, not a single divorce on her docket has gone to trial for either financial or child custody resolution.
The Good Karma Divorce lays out effective strategies for defusing negative emotions, understanding that these same emotions are unique reservoirs of unlimited power. The exercises and suggestions in the book reinforce a positive path by flushing negative patterns to the surface, thus escalating the learning curve, advancing mind control and putting healing on a fast track. But the emphasis of the book is not on divorcing couples alone. The Good Karma Divorce also debunks conventional wisdom concerning the supposed resilience of children of divorce, and it offers proven techniques to minimize unintentional damage to children by their divorcing parents.
Strategies, techniques and exercises appear in abundance in this book, but its overarching premise is hope. According to Judge Lowrance, a marriage should not be judged by its ending. Indeed, pain and suffering result when ex‐spouses tell themselves that the memories of their former life have no current significance. The heart and the soul both know better, and in the ensuing emotional tug of war, peace may be forever out of reach. Successful mourning of a past marriage, while painful, does not require corruption of memory. In the Chicago courtroom depicted in this book, divorcing couples learn how to use the system to ensure that the person who emerges is not only released from depression and anxiety, he is wiser and stronger. And parents who must take their children along with then on this dreaded journey learn that they have what it takes to be heroic and to stop the destructive cycle of inherited post-divorce trauma.
The Good Karma Divorce puts all feelings and emotions to good use, no matter how negative or painful they may seem. Its energy is already being felt in Judge Lowrance’s courtroom today. Tomorrow, this powerful set of principles and strategies can be unleashed throughout the entire divorce industry, as its alchemy spins the country’s collective marital crisis into golden healing across all sociological divides.
The average divorce takes two years with a median cost of $30,000. Yet the true cost of divorce is more than time or money; it is the legacy of the decisions made during the process. No matter how long two people have been married, whether there are children or not, divorce often leads to bad choices that can forever alter a family’s life. But what if you could reverse the stereotype and move regret-free through this process? Divorce is unfortunate but it does not need to become the defining moment for the rest of your life.
Michele Lowrance is a practicing domestic-relations judge who over the past four years has seen 100 percent of divorcing couples avoid trial by following the principles presented in this book. Using her expertise as a family-court judge and former divorce attorney, Judge Lowrance has created a revolutionary guide for people facing the turmoil of divorce. The Good Karma Divorce offers concrete advice, real-life examples, no-nonsense tools, and helpful checklists. Inside, you will learn how to:
- Create a manifesto: Judge Lowrance shows us how to craft a road map that serves as our moral compass through the ever-twisting divorce journey.
- Harness negative emotions: Divorce brings out some of the strongest emotions we will feel in our lifetimes. Judge Lowrance helps us transform these raw feelings into positive power. We don’t have to be victims.
- Prevent collateral damage: Divorce is so personal that it is easy to lose focus on the big picture. Judge Lowrance’s impassioned advice will help guide you through the minefield, delivering a clear course of action to protect what we all value most: our children.
- Master transformative confrontation: It might start ugly but it doesn’t have to stay that way. Judge Lowrance teaches us how to avoid carnage in the courtroom, reinvigorate stale negotiations, and create a civility agreement.
Divorce is transitory, yet we too often become paralyzed by its effects. Life goes on and the decisions we make during this process must endure as well. By following our personal manifesto, harnessing our raw emotions, preventing collateral damage, and using transformative confrontation, we can avoid the black hole of litigation and create a good karma divorce, opening up a new world of hope and possibility.